Tuesday, April 22, 2014

Country by Country

United States--visited plenty of different places

Mexico--Thanksgiving cruise--forgot year; high school mission trip

Canada--day trip after Alaskan cruise.

Guatemala--mission trip March 2012

The Bahamas--Spring Break 2005

Belize--Thanksgiving cruise--forgot year

Italy--cruise Summer 2006

Spain--cruise Summer 2006

Croatia--cruise Summer 2006

Monaco--cruise Summer 2006

France--Cannes on cruise Summer 2006; Paris on Senior Trip March 2009

England--Senior Trip March 2009

Scotland--Senior Trip March 2009

Finland--cruise Summer 2010

Sweden--cruise Summer 2010

Estonia--cruise Summer 2010

Norway--cruise Summer 2010

Denmark--cruise Summer 2010

Russia--cruise Summer 2010

Germany-- cruise Summer 2010

Monday, April 21, 2014

State by State

I want to visit all 50 states in my lifetime, but I've already made a pretty good dent. Thought I would write down the circumstances of my visit to each state.

Texas--Lived here 1998-present; been to numerous locales around the state

Kansas--born here 1990 and lived here until 1991; frequent trips back to family's lake cabin; most recent visit December 2013 (Topeka + suburbs)

Missouri--lived here 1991-1998; frequent trips back to see family; most recent visit December 2013 (Kansas City + suburbs)

Iowa--went several times as a kid; most recent visit July 2012 (West Branch)

Oklahoma--driven through a variety of times on the Texas-to-Missouri trip; have family that lives here; Most recent visit December 2013 (Oklahoma City)

Colorado--went once as a kid (don't remember it); most recent visit was in high school for a choir tour (Denver)

Washington--went to Seattle March 2010.

California--went to Los Angeles in high school on family trip

New York--went to New York City in March 2001.

Pennsylvania--went to Philadelphia in high school on family trip.

Georgia--frequent trips to family's beach home on Jekyll Island; went to Atlanta on a choir tour in high school; most recent visit January 2012 (Jekyll Island)

Florida--one trip to Walt Disney World as a kid; most recent visit January 2012 (Orlando)

Illinois--one trip to Springfield as a kid; most recent visit August 2009 (Chicago)

New Mexico--one trip to Albuquerque as a kid

Washington, D.C.---one trip as a kid; most recent visit on high school choir tour.

Maryland--high school choir tour went to Baltimore.

North Carolina--trip to Outer Banks as a kid.

Wyoming--trip to Yellowstone as a kid.

South Dakota--trip to Mount Rushmore as a kid

Michigan--trip to the Upper Peninsula as a kid

Indiana--went to a United Methodist Student Foundation conference in Evanston in May 2010

Alaska--cruise in Summer 2005

Massachusetts--trip to Boston March 2014

Virginia--one trip to Mount Vernon/Monticello as a kid; most recent visit Summer 2013 (Williamsburg)

Tennessee--trip to Nashville on high school choir tour

Louisiana--one trip to Shreveport as a kid; most recent visit on a mission trip to New Orleans in high school

Arkansas--one trip to Little Rock as a kid; various family reunions; most recent visit in September 2013 (Eureka Springs)


I've been to these states but only briefly, thus I don't count them in my total.

Delaware--Got lost driving in Pennsylvania and ended up in Delaware for a few minutes.

New Jersey--Rode the subway to New Jersey from New York City and then came back.

Alabama--drove through while driving from Texas to Georgia as a kid.

Mississippi--drove through while driving from Texas to Georgia as a kid.

Kentucky--drove through while driving from Missouri to Georgia as a kid.

Nebraska--drove through while driving from Missouri to South Dakota as a kid.

Minnesota--had a layover in the Minneapolis airport flying from Texas to Alaska.

Friday, April 18, 2014

Boston Day 7

On our last full day in Boston, our nice weather came to an end. We awoke to 20 degrees and snowing. We ate, checked out of our hotel, drove the car back, and was dropped off at the subway by the nice and cute car rental manager. We rode back to the hotel we previously stayed at, checked in to a different room, and then immediately went straight back out to Quincy.

Quincy, I’m sad to say, was nearly a total bust. We got out there and first stopped for Dunkin’ Donuts coffee (which I had never had before) because it was FREEZING. It stopped snowing though. We then walked to the Visitor Center, only to find out that it was impractical to visit the 2 birthplaces (John Adams’ and John Quincy Adams’). Additionally, the church where the 2 presidents + their wives are buried was closed. We could visit the house John and Abigail bought later in life though. We had known all 3 houses were closed for winter, but had hoped to walk around a bit outside them. It was too cold to walk all the way out to the birthplaces and there was no public transportation out there.

We ate lunch at Sher-a-Punjab, an Indian restaurant across the street from the Visitor Center. We then toured the Quincy Historical Society Museum, which was small, but interesting. There was a lot about the extended Quincy and Adams families, as well as the Hancock family. After that, we walked to Peacefield, the house John and Abigail bought later in life and took pictures. It was unpleasant though, due to the cold. I peered in the windows, but could not see anything. I’m glad I got to see one house though. We walked back to the Visitor Center. Mom and I stopped in the church graveyard to see the extended Adams and Quincy family graves (John Adams’ parents, siblings, etc.). The presidents + wives are buried in a crypt within the church though. We walked back to the Visitor Center and watched a movie.


We left about 3:30 and rode the subway back for the last time. We had a quiet night, eating in the hotel restaurant. Mom and I used the hotel hot tub, which we had been saying we would do all week. We flew back the next morning.

And so our trip to Boston ended with a whimper. I’m disappointed about Quincy, but I definitely plan to come back someday in the summer (or at least later in spring) to see all 3 houses and the graves in their glory. We were extremely lucky to have 6 days of good weather and only 1 of bad. I enjoyed Boston a lot, and am glad I got to go.

Thursday, April 17, 2014

Boston Day 6

We got up and had breakfast at the hotel. In the winter, everything in Concord is either closed or it opens late, so we started our morning by driving around to take pictures—we took pictures of Emerson’s house (closed for the winter season), Nathaniel Hawthorne’s house (closed for renovations), and Louisa May Alcott’s house. It was expected to rain in the afternoon, so we wanted to get our pictures done early. We still had to read in the car for 30 minutes though.

(Emerson's house)

(Louisa May Alcott's house)

At 11, the Concord Museum opened. It is a small, but well-managed museum. Thoreau’s original desk is there as well as Ralph Waldo Emerson’s entire study. (I never could figure out why it’s not in his house.) There are period rooms and lots of interesting artifacts. Concord has had an impressive history from Indian times on.

We had lunch at the Trail’s End Cafe, which was delicious. We lingered a bit, but about 1:30, we headed for a tour of Louisa May Alcott’s house. It was a fairly typical home, but I enjoyed seeing her bedroom. The tour felt a bit rushed—I would have liked to linger, in Louisa’s room particularly. But I was pleased to see it and to learn a bit more about her and her family.

While we were touring the house, the rain started. We made a quick stop at the Concord Free Public Library, which was a gorgeous place. There were busts of all the Concord writers and each writer had their own section. Definitely a place I would frequent a lot if I lived in the area.

(Emerson statute at the library.)

We went back to the hotel and rested. We had leftovers for dinner, but then went out for dessert at Margarita’s, the Mexican restaurant next door to our hotel. I had HUGE sopapillas. 

Interesting fact of the day: we typically say Henry David Thoreau’s name Ther-row, but apparently the proper way to say it is just like the word thorough. The guide at the Louisa May Alcott house informed us of this.

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Boston Day 5

We got up early, ate breakfast, and checked out of our hotel. We took the subway and then the local bus to Lexington. We had reserved a rental car for noon, but got there early enough to pick it up by 11 am. We drove to downtown Concord and ate at the Colonial Inn. I had the Alcott sandwich, which I chose mostly due to its name. It was delicious though. After lunch, we explored downtown Concord before heading to the North Bridge, which is where the “shot heard ‘round the world” was fired. It was a lot smaller than I imagined for some reason. The path to the bridge wasn’t clear so our shoes got muddy and wet. But I enjoyed seeing the bridge—the weather was beautiful and the river was so clear. You can also see the Old Manse House, which was owned by Ralph Waldo Emerson’s grandfather—Ralph created some of his earliest writings there. Ralph also let Nathaniel Hawthorne and his wife live there for awhile as well.

Next, we drove to Walden Pond, which was the highlight of the trip. We had to walk a LONG way in snow, but the weather was beautiful. The pond was frozen and I walked on it for awhile. When we got up to the site of Thoreau’s cabin, there was only foundation markers. We sat on them and watched the lake for awhile. It was extremely peaceful, and I could definitely see the appeal of living out there. We walked back and looked at the replica of the cabin, which was surprisingly well-furnished. Thoreau used his space wisely! It was my favorite part of the trip by far.

Afterwards, we drove to Sleepy Hollow Cemetery. My parents were worn out, so I walked up to Authors’ Ridge by myself and saw the graves of Emerson, Thoreau, Louisa May Alcott, and Nathaniel Hawthorne, along with their families. It took me awhile to find the graves, and two gentlemen directed me. The path up was icy and one of the gents asked if I was sure I wanted to go up. I told him that “I’ve come all the way from Texas, so I’ve got to go up!” The walk wasn’t that bad—there were handles. The sun was setting and I sat on a bench opposite Louisa’s grave for awhile. It was quite lovely.

We went back to the hotel via the scenic route and rested for awhile. We had dinner at Lemon Grass Thai Restaurant in Lexington. It was terrible service though—don’t go there if you’re ever in Lexington.

The weather was amazing—sunny and crisp. We picked the right time to come in my opinion. The paths weren’t the best, but the solitude made up for it. Apparently in the summer it gets horribly crowded in Concord, which I would not enjoy. Sitting at Thoreau’s cabin or at Louisa’s grave alone for 10 minutes or so would not happen in the summer. 

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Boston Day 4

We got up at 8, but it took us awhile to get down to breakfast. We didn’t leave the hotel until around 10. We took the subway out to Harvard. We went to the Peabody Museum of Archaeology and Ethnology and the Harvard Museum of Natural History. They were both impeccably designed and managed. I got done early, and read my Kindle in the lobby. About 1:30, we walked to Harvard Square. We ate at Charlie’s Kitchen, a student hangout recommended by the museum front desk. Afterwards, we walked to the main library but couldn’t go in.  : ( We also looked at the Divinity School and Law School. (Yes, I totally quoted Legally Blonde, what kind of woman do you think I am?) We ended by going to the Harvard Semitic Museum. We walked back to the subway and got back to the hotel at 5:30. We rested, then went for dinner at Mario’s, a local Italian place recommended by the hotel about 8. We had dessert—mine was the most delicious cannoli!


I liked Harvard, though it seemed like a typical college for all the hype said about it. Granted, I didn’t attend any classes or look at the dorm rooms or anything. Just looking at the student body though—if you took off their Harvard sweatshirts, they’d be average people. Walking around Harvard Square was interesting—Cambridge seems like a typical college town albeit richer. There’s an Urban Outfitters and a Lush in Harvard Square, along with a variety of other stores. But we ate at a restaurant in the square that was said to be a favorite student haunt and my entree only cost $6. The museums all clearly had money invested in them. There were professor offices throughout all three museums and it was interesting to peek in the windows.

I also like the red brick buildings of Harvard. I’ve always held that a college with red brick is the “standard,” despite going to two schools that have barely any red brick. I think I just like the romance of it, though the cold dissuades me from ever going to an Ivy League school.

Monday, April 14, 2014

Boston Day 3

We got up at 8 and ate breakfast. We were planning to go to the Adams house today, but had misread the hours. Luckily, we noticed it was closed on Sunday before we went all the way out to Quincy. It took us awhile to decide what to do instead, so we didn’t leave the hotel until 9:30. We took the hotel shuttle, the subway, and finally the shuttle bus to the John F. Kennedy Presidential Library on the campus of UMass-Boston.

UMass-Boston has a ton of construction going on, so obviously some of the economy is doing well. The Library is gorgeous with white brick and huge glass windows that overlook Boston Harbor. We ate lunch in the museum cafe, which also has a lovely view.

(View of Boston from outside the library.)

The exhibits were nice, telling about JFK’s life, times, and presidency. All the usual suspects were there: the first lady’s dresses, family photos, the family Bible, Oval Office replica, etc. When you’ve been to seven presidential libraries, you start taking a critical eye. It was a bit on the smaller side, due to his shorter presidency. Mom and I got done way before Dad so I read my Kindle and walked around the grounds a bit. My Dad finished about 3:30 and we went back via shuttle bus and subway. We got off at the New England Aquarium and walked to the Boston Tea Party marker. There was a museum about the event that was closed, so we just took pictures of the Harbor. We rode the rest of the way back and got picked up and taken back to the hotel.

(At Boston Harbor!)

Mom and I had leftovers so we ate those and then shared a salad at the hotel restaurant while Dad ate. We had a quiet evening, reading and whatnot. 

Sunday, April 13, 2014

Boston Day 2

We got up at 8 and ate breakfast at the hotel. We took the hotel shuttle to the subway stop and then caught the subway to Park Street Station. We got off right in front of the Freedom Trail Visitor Center. Before we even went in, there was a guy announcing a guided tour. My parents LOVE guided tours, so we went for 90 minutes over the first half of the Freedom Trail with him. It was ok—he showed us the current Massachusetts State House, the Old State House, the graveyard where the Boston Massacre victims, Sam Adams, Paul Revere, and John Hancock are buried, various old buildings, and the site where the Boston Massacre took place. I kind of wanted to go at my own pace but whatever. It’s a little odd because Boston is so built up now—like the spot where the Boston Massacre happened is now a busy intersection with honking cars.
(Site of Boston Massacre

After the tour, my Dad was hungry so we ate a light lunch at Salty Dog in Quincy Market. We then went into the 2nd Freedom Trail Visitor Center (there’s one at the start and one at the halfway point). We watched a movie and got maps. I was impatient to get going and was extremely glad when we finally started walking the second half on our own at 1:30.

We walked through a huge chunk of Boston (the Freedom Trail is 2.5 miles long total), and it was so beautiful. It was GORGEOUS weather—the tour guide said it was the best weather they’d had all year. In the second half, we saw Paul Revere’s house, Old North Church (where the lanterns were hung during Paul Revere’s famous ride), and another old cemetery. We got to the Boston Shipyard and watched a brief video. My parents wanted to tour the USS Constitution, but boats aren’t my thing so I walked to Bunker Hill by myself. My parents have been to Boston before and have already seen most of what we saw, so they wanted to do a new thing.

(Marker at each Freedom Trail site)

Bunker Hill was my favorite part of the day, partially because I was alone (my parents can be wearing) and also because Bunker Hill is more in the suburbs so the walk was quiet and pretty. Also, the monument is on a hill and looks down on Boston and it is a spectacular view. People live all-around the monument and they were out walking their dogs due to the nice weather. Kids were playing around the monument green and there was a wedding party taking pictures.

I walked back to the Shipyard and read my Kindle while waiting for the parents to finish. At 4:15, we took the Charles River Ferry back across to near where we started. That was second-best part of the day as the view was lovely but it was cold. 

(Waiting for the ferry)

We ate an early dinner at Union Oyster House, which is allegedly the oldest restaurant in America. Earlier in the day, the tour guide had told us there was going to be a reenactment of the Boston Massacre at the Old State House at 7. (The Massacre happened 244 years ago this week!) My Dad wanted to see it and get a good view, so we went back to the OSH and my Dad went to stand. Mom and I said no way to standing up in the cold for an hour, so we loitered in a nearby Staples for 40 minutes, sitting in their office chairs. We went back out 15 minutes before, but it was packed so we stood far back. We couldn’t see anything, but we heard it. It was actually funny because every time a Redcoat talked, everybody booed. It got over about 7:30, and Mom and I met up with Dad in the subway. We took the subway back and then had to wait for the shuttle. We got home about 8:15.

In short: we walked a lot and Boston is cold. And the weather was only supposed to get worse unfortunately!

Saturday, April 12, 2014

Boston Day 1

Thursday night I slept poorly due to a combination of coffee ice cream too late in the evening, excitement, and fear that I would oversleep. I got out of bed at 5:30, and got ready. I got Starbucks and caught the 7 am train. My parents picked me up and we were through security by 9. We had breakfast at TGI Friday’s—I had a cinnamon roll. After breakfast, we realized Dad had forgotten his suitcase at security. We found out it had been put in storage in Terminal E. Our flight was in Terminal A and there wasn’t time to retrieve it so Dad has no suitcase.

The flight was 3.5 hours long and they showed Frozen as the in-flight movie. I had not seen it yet, and I thought it was pretty cute. 

(First time I ever saw snow from above!)

It was 3 when we arrived. We caught our hotel shuttle and rested in our room awhile. For dinner, we went to Jeraveli’s, the oldest Italian restaurant in Boston. When we got home, I took a 3-hour nap. After I awoke, I read awhile but I was so tired, I slept again at midnight. 

Friday, April 11, 2014


I have gotten into the habit of going to Starbucks before church on Sunday mornings. Last Sunday, while I waiting for my drink, I started pondering whether going to Starbucks on Sunday was really a good idea.

By contributing to Starbucks's profits on Sunday, I am ensuring that its employees have to work. That possibly deprives them of a chance to go to church or to have a Sabbath. Yes, maybe they can go to church on Saturday night or watch an online service later, but still. Contributing to worldly consumption on the holy day feels a bit off.

And it's not just Starbucks. I grew up in a family where eating out for Sunday lunch was the standard. And we're by no means the only family to have that tradition--churchgoers descending on restaurants after church is universal--the "after-church lunch crowd." And when I worked at Target, it was a well-known fact that Sundays mornings were dead, but Sunday afternoons were nasty (because, you know, the ads came out and people wanted to be the first to get the good deal).

There are a few places that close on Sunday--Chick-Fil-A and Hobby Lobby come to mind--but even then I know I'm just as guilty as anyone else of complaining that I craved CFA on Sundays and that I wished it was open. Target used to close on Sundays, but not so anymore. I'm surprised that they still close on Easter Sunday to be honest.

What would it be like if Christians stopped spending money on Sundays? What if we went home for lunch and didn't get Starbucks (or donuts) before church? What if we didn't stop for gas or milk after Sunday Night Bible study? (These are all things that I have done in my life.) How would that change the economic patterns?

Christians are good at turning out for causes they support--the CFA gay marriage scandal comes to mind. I remember watching the news and seeing lines wrapped around various CFA restaurants. What if we were that excited about NOT spending money on Sundays? Oh wait, that would inconvenience us. My bad.

Recently, I have read two books about living purposely (7: An Experimental Mutiny Against Excess by Jen Hatmaker and Flunking Sainthood by Jana Riess). Both of these women did an experiment where they took the Sabbath seriously and did no work on Sundays. This was seen as unique enough to warrant an entire chapter of their respective books. Taking the Sabbath seriously in our culture is so rare that doing so can land you a book deal.

So when we follow the Lord's command and take the Sabbath off, we give ourselves a pat on the back. Yet we don't seem to care if our brothers and sisters in the service industry get the opportunity to take the Sabbath. Is that truly OK?

I think the problem is typically we DON'T take a Sabbath. Thus why would we care if others don't get one either? Busyness is so glorified now--Sundays are for sport games and birthday parties as far as Facebook is concerned. And we have to have fast food to cram into our faces between commitments.

I think the problem is nearly insurmountable as long as our busyness culture prevails. Or at least as long as Christians subscribe to that mentality.

Christians are a mighty force in American culture--we could instill major economic change if we put our minds to it and inconvenienced ourselves a bit. And maybe stores being closed on Sundays could be the norm again, and not the rare, applauded occurrence.

And I'm going to stop going to Starbucks on Sundays.

Monday, February 24, 2014

Weekend at Home

I took the train home early Friday morning. My parents picked me up and we had a late breakfast. I went to the dentist and my Dad and I got Sonic drinks on the way home. We worked on tax things until 6. My brother got home and we had dinner at our excellent local BBQ place.

Saturday, I flew with my Dad and brother to Lancaster, where there is a lovely restaurant at the airport. We ate breakfast and came home. I drove out to L & A's wedding. My friend K was there and we stuck together during the wedding. It was a fairly short event--I was home by 3:30. We didn't do much Saturday night--watched TV.

(At the Lancaster Airport after breakfast Saturday morning. Picture by my brother.)

(Waiting in the food line at the wedding. Picture by K.)

Sunday, I went to Sunday school and church. All 4 of us had brunch at a local restaurant that we love. My mom and I went to see "The Foreigner," a play at our local amateur playhouse. I got home about 4:30 and stayed home all evening. My mom and I watched Downton Abbey.

(My brother and I after Sunday brunch. Yes, I did wear the same outfit twice. Picture by my Dad.) 

Today, I packed up and put the guest room back in order. My Dad and I took the train to downtown Dallas and ate lunch down there. He rode back home and I rode back to school. Got home at 3. Now trying to force myself to do homework.

It was a nice weekend. I'll see my parents in 11 freaking days when we go to BOSTON. I'll see my brother when we both come home for Easter.

Also, at Sunday brunch, all 4 of us coordinated our calendars and dang is this summer going to be crazy.

Thursday, January 2, 2014

Media Consumption 2013

I see WAY too many movies. I can barely remember what I’ve seen and what I haven’t. So I’ve decided to keep a list of every movie I see in 2013. Unless otherwise noted, I’m seeing them for the first time.

1. The Hobbit: An Unexpected Journey (2012) (previously viewed)
2. Ruby Sparks (2012)
3. Moneyball (2011)
4. Indiana Jones and the Raiders of the Lost Ark (1981)
5. Pitch Perfect (2012)
6. Groundhog Day (1993)
7. Back to the Future (1985)
8. Back to the Future II (1989)
9. Back to the Future III (1990)
10. Wimbledon (2004) (previously viewed)
11. Bridget Jones: The Edge of Reason (2004) (previously viewed)
12. LOTR: The Return of the King (2003) (previously viewed)
13. Remember the Titans (2000) (previously viewed)
14. Atlantis: The Lost Empire (2001) (previously viewed)
15. The Breakfast Club (1985)
16. Kiki’s Delivery Service (1989)
17. Oz the Great and Powerful (2013)
18. Emperor (2012)
19. Quartet (2012)
20. Pretty in Pink (1986)
21. Amelie (2001)
22. Coffee and Cigarettes (2003)
23. Clueless (1995) (previously viewed)
24. The Aristocats (1970) (previously viewed)
25. Beauty and the Beast (1991) (previously viewed)
26. The Lion King (1994) (previously viewed)
27. Tangled (2010) (previously viewed) 
28. Brave (2012) (previously viewed)
29. 42 (2013)
30. The Great Gatsby (2013)
31. Star Trek Into Darkness (2013)
32. Iron Man III (2013)
33. Blazing Saddles (1974)
34. Made of Honor (2008) (previously viewed)
35. Love is All You Need (2012)
36. The Kings of Summer (2013)
37. Zero Dark Thirty (2012)
38. Blue Like Jazz (2012)
39. Fill the Void (2012)
40. Monsters University (2013)
41. Despicable Me (2010)
42. Despicable Me II (2013)
43. Casa de mi Padre (2012)
44. Wreck-It Ralph (2012) (previously viewed)
45. Blue Jasmine (2013)
46. Jurassic Park (1993)
47. Catherine the Great (1995)
48. Star Trek (2009)
49. Sixteen Candles (1985)
50. Cast Away (2000)
51. The King’s Speech (2010) (previously viewed)
52. Apollo 13 (1995)
53. When Harry Met Sally (1989) (previously viewed)
54. Wall-E (2008) (previously viewed)
55. Parkland (2013)
56. 12 Years a Slave (2013)
57. Diana (2013)
58. My Week with Marilyn (2011)
59. Hocus Pocus (1993) (previously viewed)
60. The Nightmare Before Christmas (1993) (previously viewed)
61. You’ve Got Mail (1998) (previously viewed)
62. Philomena (2013)
63. Catching Fire (2013)
64. Elf (2003) (previously viewed)
65. The Hobbit: Desolation of Smaug (2013)
66. Saving Mr. Banks (2013)
67. Nebraska (2013)
68. Inside Llewyn Davis (2013)
69. The Hobbit: Desolation of Smaug (2013) (previously viewed)

I don’t watch that much TV, but here’s the shows I watched in 2013: 
1. 8 episodes of Mad Men (Season 5)
2. 24 episodes of Boardwalk Empire (Seasons 1 and 2)
3. 9 episodes of How I Met Your Mother (Seasons 2 and 3)
4. 17 episodes of Smash (Season 2)
5. 12 episodes of The Supersizers Go/Eat (Seasons 1 & 2)
6. 2 episodes of Almost Human (Season 1)

I claim to be a fan of these shows but am not caught up:
Downton Abbey (missing most of Season 3) 
Boardwalk Empire (missing most of Season 3 and all of Season 4)
Mad Men (missing most of Season 6)